Hi everyone! Today we’re going to delve a little deeper into spending more time with your kids. The five tactics I covered in the series on freeing up time for your kids can be difficult to implement. I’d like to talk about something that makes it a lot easier to put some of those time-saving tactics into practice. It involves planning and making use of a calendar, whether it’s a paper or electronic one.
Start by taking an hour or two away from your normal activities to really plan things out. Consider daily, weekly, monthly, and yearly activities. We’re going to cover daily activities for this post, and get into the other three categories in the next one.
When you think about these activities, you need to get as detailed as you can about what you want to do with your kids and how much time you want to spend with them. Then, lock it into your calendar just as you would a meeting with your boss or an appointment with a client. This is similar to taking time for date night in your marriage or relationship, and it’s just as important, if not more so.
An example of daily activities would be my rule of getting home by 5 p.m. That’s what I strive for. This may not apply to you, but I’m sure you have something that’s equivalent. Another facet of these daily activities is spending 5 to 6 p.m. hanging out with my kids. I focus solely on playing and interacting with them. It’s a special time that’s just for them, and I’m lucky enough to have my wife cook dinner while I’m doing this. We all have dinner together at around 6 p.m., which is key to bolstering that bonding time. We have a certain rhythm that we try to stick to, and we start our bedtime rituals at 7 p.m. We start by bathing the kids. Each of us bathes one of them, which gives us more one-on-one time with them. We read books together and focus on getting some more quality time in before the kids go to sleep. This gives me a chance to spend more time with my son, say goodnight to my daughter, and put my son to bed.
At this point, we have a lot of consistency, which is crucial to spending more time with your kids. Getting it on the calendar is extremely helpful when it comes to maintaining consistency. It’s amazing what happens when you decide upon set times for when you get home and when you spend time with your children. It creates an ability to free up time in a way that’s almost magical. I don’t know what happens exactly, but it just works.
This concludes the first installment of this post. As always, thank you so much for taking time out of your busy day to read my blog! Check back next time for a discussion about weekly, monthly, and yearly activities and how to schedule them. Until then, have a better than amazing day!